Sometimes things don't go the way you thought they would go. It might be one of the first things we learn as little humans. So then what do you do?
You can throw a fit.
You can pout.
You can blame other people.
You can make excuses.
You can say you're handling it, whatever it is, but your actions say I'm throwing in the towel.
Eventually, if you're lucky, you learn to handle these times. You have great parents who teach you, or a great teacher, or a great coach. Or you are part of a community or team that help to shape this muscle--the surrender, acceptance muscle. You let go of what you thought it was going to be and do what you can in the moment. It's optimistic action, and it's waaay harder than the alternative. Instead of all or nothing, instead of f**k it, you do what you can, with what you have, where you are. And, funny enough, when we look back on those moments when we had to surrender or accept something we hadn't planned for, they are often the times we are most grateful for in our lives.